When Disaster Strikes: Dating During a Pandemic
Dating is wild. But if you think about it, trying to find the person you want to spend every day of the rest of your life with should probably come with some difficulties. Between trying to keep up with the numerous apps and the toxicity of faking a healthy relationship, it can be pretty exhausting. Add in a global pandemic… and welp you’ve got a bit of a mess on your hands.
In the past few months I’ve seen so many relationships grow stronger… and many fall apart. There have been engagements, weddings, and even pregnancies! Which is beautiful during a time when the world is so dark. But, there have also been divorces, breakups, and worse. So where does that leave us single-but-actively-looking folks?
I’m a firm believer in love, my parents have been married for 27 years and have always wanted that for myself. But I also believe in not dying. So until this sh*t is over, the apps will have to do. Don’t get me wrong, I am enjoying my single time and am very grateful to be living alone. However I would like to find my forever person, and that won’t happen by sitting on my couch binging X-Files. The problem is, I find it very difficult to fall for someone over the phone.
With everything going on in the world, honestly the last thing I’m worried about is checking my Hinge messages. No disrespect to any of my matches, it’s just really not my focus right now. Many of the apps are suggesting having a first date via video, which is a great alternative. I barely want to Facetime my family, the chances of me Facetiming a random guy from a dating app are slim to none.
So what does this mean for the future of millennial dating? A generation that is known to lack the capability to commit, and sadly enjoys a random hookup (or five), could be changing for the better. There could be more time getting to know one another by just talking, rather than skipping right to the bedroom. Maybe relationships will now take the time to grow into something great, rather than rush into things and ignore red flags just for the sake of being in a relationship. Though I find the apps exhaustive, If I find someone who isn’t trying to force me to meet a random stranger in the middle of a pandemic, I’ll be more open to the process. Until then, I guess we will have to see what the future holds!