Growing up I always admired my parents relationship. They have been together for about twenty-eight years, and this summer will make twenty-six years of marriage. Even the story of how they met is straight out of a fairy-tale. My uncle and father were friends as kids, and when the time was right he asked my uncle for permission to date my mom (aka, his big sister). Of course he was initially met with a big ole “hell no!” but the rest his history. They were around twenty-two and twenty-five when they got married. They were, and still are, always each other’s ride or die no matter the ups or downs. As a young child seeing this, I assumed that I would have the same life, married with kids and a nice home before the age of twenty-five.
Fast forward to 2019 and this scenario is quite rare. In the age of Social Media we are constantly on dating apps or comparing ourselves to others. This of course makes things difficult when it comes to dating. Everyone is looking for the next and newest person not to date, but to sleep with. Of course we’ve all had those nights when a little fun turns into a little more fun, but now it has become a lifestyle for many. It sucks.
I’ve had my fair share of fun, but after a while it’s exhausting to go through the same cycle. You meet someone, hit it off, then the question of sex is immediately brought up. Sometimes you’re lucky if they even try to get to know you. Some guys disappear as soon as they realize you would prefer to see a movie instead of seeing the back seat of their car.
Now I know this behavior is not new, and fairy tales are not real, but this Modern Dating Culture is out of control. People are contracting all sorts of incurable STD’s and it’s frightening. But besides that people are losing sight of what it means to be in a relationship. Just because someone doesn’t check off all of the proverbial boxes, it doesn’t mean they’re not good enough. I hate to blame it all on social media and television like I’m some eighty-year-old woman who has seen all there is to the world, HOWEVER, it certainly has something to do with it. We as a society are so obsessed with looking perfect and finding the perfect person, when in reality there is no such thing as perfection.
I’m not looking for prince charming but I definitely am tired of kissing so many frogs. What I am looking for someone who is not so caught up with this ridiculous dating culture. As I approach twenty-five I think about how much easier things must’ve been when my parents were dating. Though that was long ago and we live in a much different time now, I still long for a relationship like my parents. God forbid that I have to tell my future children that their father slid in my DM’s and then they came along. Though fairy tales are not real, I wish to meet someone that it willing to break out of this cycle, so we can live happily ever after.